IF CHILDREN LIVE WITH PITY,
THEY LEARN TO FEEL SORRY FOR THEMSELVES.
When things aren't going well for your child, don't waste time pitying him. Instead, do everything you can to help him make the situation better.
Our confidence in our children's inner strength will help give them the faith they need to trust in and rely upon themselves. This will guide them along the road from self-pity to self-determination.
Feeling sorry for ourselves does not set a good example for our children. We have to find or create the resources we need to change our attitude.
When a project fails, encourage your child by asking, "How did you want it to turn out? Maybe there's a way I can help you do a better job next time."
We must open our hearts and teach our children to recognize a tragic situation when it occurs - then do what we can to help, and find ways they can help, too.
Disabled or even terminally ill children often teach their parents more about how to live than their parents could ever teach them.
No child needs pity. Encouragement and understanding can inspire your child and give him something to hold on to.
Your kind thoughts and words directed to a truly disabled child are just as important as the helping hand you may offer her.
When your child notices you are not feeling up to par, and says, "I'm sorry, Mommy," and pats you on the shoulder, she is showing empathy.
All of us know what it's like to miss out on an opportunity or to feel regret or disappointment. When things go wrong, help your child review what happened and figure our how she could have made different choice, so she can do better next time.
Keep off the pathway of pity with your children. Instead, take the pathway of determination.
"Poor me" is an isolating feeling. Make a special effort to connect with your child, offering warmth, appreciation, and understanding instead of pity.
Let's face it - nobody is perfect. Sometimes expecting too much too soon from our children can cause them to feel that they don't measure up.
If we hear a child saying "I can't" to often, we may want to explore in what way he needs to feel more empowered.
We want our children to understand that things don't always go the way they want them to. We hope that, rather than feeling sorry for themselves, they'll learn to see this fact of life as a challenge.
The positive outlook of those who live, work, and play with disabilities in their everyday lives can teach all of us a lot about courage, faith and hope.
No matter what the situation, pity is not a helpful attitude. Our children need our support and confidence.
It's vital for us to confront ourselves when we start feeling sorry for ourselves. At these times we need to find the strength and support we need to take positive action instead of wallowing in self-pity.
No matter how difficult things may appear in the moment, as parents we need to always maintain our most optimistic vision of our children. Remember - we are the grown-ups!
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