IF CHILDREN LIVE WITH SECURITY,
THEY LEARN TO HAVE FAITH IN THEMSELVES AND IN THOSE ABOUT THEM.
Our children learn to trust when we do what we say we're going to do in a predictable and dependable way.
Children who have feelings of insecurity may also fell uncared for or alone. We need to be alert to the extra care and attention they may need from us at those times.
Our children's faith in themselves will enable them to fall in love, make meaningful commitments to others, and build families of their own one day.
Children trust their parents whether or not that trust is deserved. Let's make sure we live up to their trust.
Our children's belief in themselves will guide their career choices, enabling them to take risks, handle responsibility, and trust their own decisions.
We want our children to internalize a feeling of security – to have genuine faith in themselves and in what they can do. The only way they can have this faith in themselves is if we have faith in them first.
We want our children to feel secure enough to be able to enjoy the awe, mystery, and wonder of the universe.
Our goal is to be able to send our children into the world each day with expectations that they will do good work and choose right actions.
We must earn our children's trust by being predictable and accountable, day in and day out. This requires our commitment and vigilance, in big matters and small.
We want our children to have positive expectations of other people, yet recognize when the behavior of others is unacceptable. We also want them to have the inner security to set limits and stand up for what’s right when they, or others, are being challenged.
Our children need to know that we are on their side, available to support them regardless of what the situation is. We can show them this is how we truly feel by the way we respond to minor nuisances – a broken vase, spilled milk, a wet bed.
Families define faith in many different ways, but a basic faith in the goodness of humankind is essential to be able to face life with hope and optimism.
The family is the child’s "home base" – a haven of security and safety. We want our children to know they can rely on us, that we will always be there for them, even as they venture out into the world.
We need to have enough faith in our children to allow them to fall down and get up, make mistakes and learn from them, fail and try again. These lessons are invaluable in helping them to develop a sense of inner security.
We need to take our promises to our children very seriously. They don't forget them, and neither should we.
When children feel safe, protected, and cared about, they are secure. Don’t be afraid to ask them every once in a while how they're doing. They may need to be asked.
When our children trust us, to be responsive to them, to consider their feelings, and to always care for them, they develop a strong sense of security and faith in human relationships.
An inner sense of security and faith in oneself is part of a child's psychological foundation. It's essential for her success and happiness in life.
When we believe in our children – that they will have the inner strength to handle life's challenges, the resilience to recover from disappointments, and the courage to love – they will have the faith in themselves that they need to live a full life.
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